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Love is Not Selfish October 5, 2009

Filed under: The Love Dare — Jess @ 7:00 am

Start from the Beginning:

The Love Dare

Days: 1, 2

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Day three of The Love Dare folks.

Today’s dare was: To buy something that shows I was thinking of him all day.

This was a sort of you put your money into that which you love type of dare.

I know my husband and flowers or a card were out of the question. So, this was realy tough, and I actually did spend the majority of the day thinking about him and wondering what I could buy him to tell him I love him and was thinking of him all day.

So, I got him a lunchbox. I know, I know…it just drips of romance. But I thought all day and this will make his mornings easier. It will also make him able to bring some healthy snacks (which he’s been wanting too) for his drive to and from work (2 hours+ all together).

I also slipped a little love note in it for him to find.

All in all, he loved it and I was so happy to make him so happy.

It feels good to let things be all about him.

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Love is Kind October 4, 2009

Filed under: The Love Dare — Jess @ 7:00 am

Start from the Beginning:

The Love Dare

Days: 1

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Day Two:

Todays dare: Continue not saying anything negative and “do at least one unexpected gesture as an act of kindness”.

It was harder today. I had a really hard time coming up with an unexpected gesture of kindness. Now don’t get me wrong, I thought of all kinds of things I could do for the Hunk that were kind. It was the unexpected that got me.

My initial thought was I’d make him cookies or his favorite meal or something like that, but I do that all the time already so it wouldn’t be very unexpected.

I really struggled with this one. ┬áIn the end I was kind to my husband, but I don’t know how unexpected that kindness was since I think I’m a pretty kind person in the first place.

So, I’m marking this one as completed even though I’m a little shakey on whether I followed it exactly right or not.

Wonder what tomorrow’s dare will bring?

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Love is Patient October 3, 2009

Filed under: The Love Dare — Jess @ 7:00 am

Start from the Beginning:

The Love Dare

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Day One of The Love Dare went pretty well I think. The Dare for today was to show patience by not saying anything negative to my husband. I’m not a particularily negative person so I found this dare to be relatively easy. The only time I wanted to say something mean was at 5 am this morning when he wouldn’t wake up to help me with the baby. I was so tired because she had been up a few times and I just wanted him to go get her for me.

It was amazing to me that The Dare popped into my sleep deprived mind even then. I was then able to get out of bed and push all those negative thoughts and words I wanted to say out of my head and focus on taking care of my baby girl.

It was a really powerful moment for me because if I hadn’t done that I would have been angry with my husband all day. So instead of waking up grumpy and tired. I’m just tired and was able to greet my husband with a smile and words full of kindness.

Hope tomorrow is as easy.

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The Love Dare October 2, 2009

Filed under: The Love Dare — Jess @ 12:01 pm

If you’ve seen the movie Fireproof, then you know what The Love Dare is. If you haven’t seen the movie, I think you should, it’s really good.

The Love Dare (to put it simply) is a dare for your marriage. It lasts for 40 days and each day there is a task you must do in regards to showing love to your spouse.

The Hunk and I bought this book months and months and months ago after we had seen the movie. Until a few weeks ago I hadn’t thought about it or even looked at it. But I was cleaning the bookshelf and found it sitting there brand new never touched.

I decided to give it a try. I thought I had a pretty good marriage. I thought we were doing just fine.

Boy was I wrong.

As I did The Love Dare (and I’m still not done yet, but the Hunk figured out I was doing it so it doesn’t have to be a secret anymore) I wrote a post expressing my feelings about what I was asked to do and how I did it, etc. I have been saving them until I could post them. I didn’t want the Hunk to know I was doing it. But alas, he figured it out because he too started The Dare.

So, here we go–40 days of purpose. 40 days of working on my marriage. 40 days towards change–really really good change.

Come with me and listen in on my journey through The Love Dare.

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